First, you don’t think you have anxiety.
You aren’t having panic attacks. Instead, you show up to work on time. Plus, you get things done. However, you never actually feel relaxed.
You think you are just “Type A” or “Organized.”
But psychologists call this High Functioning Anxiety. Your anxiety isn’t stopping you from working; it is fueling you. And that is exhausting.
The “Swan” Effect
You look like a graceful swan gliding across a lake. However, underneath the water, your feet are paddling furiously. You are just trying to stay afloat.
Here are the signs that your “drive” is actually anxiety in disguise.
1. You Are Always “Busy” (Even When You Are Not)
You feel guilty when you sit down. If you watch a movie, you have to fold laundry at the same time.
Basically, stillness feels dangerous. You use busyness to numb the worry. If you stop moving, the thoughts catch up to you.
2. The “Over-Prepared” Traveler
Do you get to the airport 3 hours early? Do you rehearse phone calls before you make them?
This isn’t just being organized. This is a need for control. You are trying to predict the future to avoid mistakes.
3. Physical “Micro-Tension”
Check your body right now.
Are your shoulders touching your ears? Is your tongue pressed against the roof of your mouth? Are you holding your breath?
These are signs of high functioning anxiety. Your body is bracing for impact. It happens even when you sit at a desk.
3 Ways to Turn Off the Alarm
You cannot turn off your brain, but you can turn down the volume.
1. Schedule “Worry Time”
It sounds weird, but it works.
Give yourself 15 minutes at 4:00 PM to worry about everything. Write it all down. If a worry pops up at 10:00 AM, tell yourself: “Not now. I will worry about that at 4:00 PM.”
2. The “Good Enough” Challenge
Perfectionism is just anxiety in a fancy suit.
The Fix: Do one thing poorly today. Send an email with a typo. Leave the bed unmade. Prove to your brain that the world will not end if you aren’t perfect.
3. 4-7-8 Breathing
This hacks your nervous system.
Inhale for 4 seconds. Hold for 7 seconds. Exhale for 8 seconds. This forces your heart rate to slow down, which tells your brain you are safe.
Conclusion
You don’t have to earn your rest.
You are allowed to just exist. So, drop your shoulders, unclench your jaw, and let yourself be a little less productive today.
Tell me in the comments: Do you feel guilty when you try to nap? That is my number one struggle.
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. This post is based on personal experience and research. If you are struggling with severe anxiety, please consult a mental health professional.
